Comments on Christiana Rants!: Valentine's Day Politics

Loved this post Christiana, however I have to disa...

2011-02-25T01:52:06.001Z

Loved this post Christiana, however I have to disagree with the notion of human laziness and self sabotage. Replace the cake with a £50.00 note and you'll get up. If you desire the object enough you will chase. You don't have to move a fifty pound note nearer to make you get up and get it. Same way if a guy desires you enough he will chase, laziness or no laziness. Giving the guy a helping hand opens you up for labelling as easy/not a challenge.

Loved this post. I hate how V Day is pushed on eve...

2011-02-23T12:53:35.258Z

Loved this post.
I hate how V Day is pushed on everyone, I'm in a relationship and have been for almost 5yrs and I despise V Day.

I dread it every year.

This year was the first V Day I have spent content and happy. All the rest have been miserable and full of disappointment.
All people see in the run up to the day is cards, presents, V Day themed meal deals and films.
You're expected to be "wined and dined" by your partner, you're expected to be lavished with gifts and attention, sometimes you're expected to retell how your partner got down on a bended knee and proposed yet what if, like me, you don't WANT any of that?

Every V Day I get this feeling of dread about what he'll get me, what I get him, what his plans are and then to top it off everyone asks me what my plans are as though we're all in competition to outdo each other.
Whatever he gets me was never enough, even though I don't want anything more than my favourite chocolate and a hug I always felt like I "should have" received more.
Other people even acted like by him buying me a teddy, CD, bag and taking me to dinner wasn't enough and that it somehow proved he clearly doesn't love me.

This year I decided "F**k it, I'm doing what WE want to do". He bought me a box of my favourite chocolates and a can of Coke. I bought him a Frijj and a DVD he wanted. We spent the night cuddled in bed watching films and laughing.
I was the best V Day I've had.
I even ignored people when they made comments like "At your age you should have gone out" and "Is that all you did? It was Valentines Day".

It WAS Valentines Day and we did it how WE wanted to.

I totally agree with you on this post! I asked a g...

2011-02-17T14:19:34.534Z

I totally agree with you on this post! I asked a guy to be my Valentine. My very first Valentine in my 25 years of life. And guess what? I got played. He had his phone off most of the weekend so by Sunday, I said forget and made plans with my girlfriends. Am I sad? Definitely not. What I'm proud of is that I asked him. It just reminded me of how unapologetically bold I am. And I ended up having the best Valentine's Day ever :)

Another great blog Christiana! Keep 'em comin....

2011-02-13T22:31:36.519Z

Another great blog Christiana! Keep 'em comin.

With love, from one blogger to another x

Another great blog Christiana! Keep 'em comin....

2011-02-13T22:31:01.501Z

Another great blog Christiana! Keep 'em comin.

With love, from one blogger to another x

BLEURGH! I LOVE this post....just realised how fai...

2011-02-13T20:09:38.635Z

BLEURGH! I LOVE this post....just realised how faithfully I read your blog from my iPhone but never get the chance to comment. Firstly, I'd like to say how much I love reading your work and kudos to you for stirring up some Twitter controversy sometimes. I find your writing so witty and full of character but you never fail to deliver a point throughout the piece and for that I gave you a Versatile Blogger Award. I know you might count it as blogger politics but please take it as my way (a faithful reader) of saying thanks for writing xx

http://say-bleurgh.blogspot.com/2011/02/7-things-i-like-about-you.html

But back to this post, I am SO with you! I had a phonecall from a friend who vows to spend Valentines' Day treating herself by sending flowers to her office, indulging in a spa treatment in her lunch break and going out to dinner (on her own) after hours. I find that all too depressing tbh and tally more with your line of reasoning. I feel teased when people ask, and we all know how inherently selfish the human race are, so I always switch the question back to them and suffer the fate of listening through every detail of their perfectly planned day *yawn*. I wont say I'm bitter, just bored.

Well my whole Valentine will be spent in uni throu...

2011-02-13T19:45:43.214Z

Well my whole Valentine will be spent in uni throughout tomorrow! There is no 'Mr Right' cause most of the Mr Right guys have end up with crazy girls/ladies!

Well Happy Valentine to you all!

Bidemi xxxxXXXXxxxx!

And let us not forget that some men don't like...

2011-02-12T16:06:49.138Z

And let us not forget that some men don't like their egos to be bruised. When a female does certain things, which make them feel that they have lost their 'power', they don't like it. maybe if women get comfortable to the fact that they can do certain things without being percieved a certain way, then they will feel comfortable to do certain things, without guilt.

Ps, some women can very easily do things that can make a man feel less of a man or what society has set up as being a man, it takes a special man to let a woman be her own person and it takes a special woman to let a man be his own person.

'Secondly, I hate the concept of ‘waiting’ for...

2011-02-12T15:41:42.032Z

'Secondly, I hate the concept of ‘waiting’ for Mr Right to come to you (not that I even believe in Mr Right) just because that’s what women are ‘supposed’ to do. There’s nothing dignified or romantic about waiting for Mr Right. I think it’s passive, slightly archaic, borderline prudish, counterproductive and boring.'

Sometimes when some women say that, it doesn't necessarily mean they are passive. It can mean they are indirectly looking and when they notice someone who they like, they will indirectly make it known they are available. That's why some of them change their dress codes or adopt activities or whatever to bring them closer to people of their interests. However, if the man is interested, then he makes the move to show his interest. 'waiting' can mean, i haven't really seen someone suitable for me.

Let the church say Amen. Love this post. I am enjo...

2011-02-11T23:15:55.524Z

Let the church say Amen. Love this post. I am enjoying my singlehood and as Sankofa stated, also prefer that my mate (or anyone else for that matter) show me their love and/or appreciation in their own time and way and not because society has designated a particular day.

Love this post Christiana!! I have a post currentl...

2011-02-11T21:33:00.944Z

Love this post Christiana!! I have a post currently sitting in my drats entitled "The singlehood depression myth" in which I argue that being single doesn't always suck, or at least doesn't suck for everyone. Some people are genuinely cool with it and even embrace it, others do something about it: They approach men themselves, adopt an active approach to dating, WHICH is what I blogged about a few weeks ago in my post "The different approaches to finding love" I don't know if you read it. Erm by the way I'm not trying to advertise my stuff all over your blog lol, but girl we've been writing about similar stuff lately for sho! I'm sat here nodding (in agreement) at everything you've written! As you know I'm married, we will be celebrating V-day... Not that I'm passionate about it, but I'm not completely against it.
Great, great post. *2 thumbs up*

Love this! Valentine's day is really just anot...

2011-02-11T16:06:11.990Z

Love this! Valentine's day is really just another day to me. I'm a also a (reforming) cynic and I stupidly allowed myself to get caught up in the hype last year because I had a boyfriend. Worst mistake ever. It ended up being a shitty day and much much worse than the Valentine's days when I was single.

I'd much rather my man show me he cares in his own way and time without bowing to the dictates of society. So on Monday I'll spend the day at uni as usual and finish it off with a dose of University Challege (second quarter finals, so exciting!).