Comments on Christiana Rants!: Considering men with potential

This makes too much sense! i love it x

2011-02-27T14:46:02.515Z

This makes too much sense! i love it x

"Silly women look at what a man drives, Wise ...

2011-02-27T13:26:55.431Z

"Silly women look at what a man drives, Wise women look at what drives the man"

There is a deep sense in this phrase. But I would better correct it in this way:
"Silly women look at what a man drives, farsighted women look at what drives the man".

I love your blog so much! This was such a good rea...

2011-02-24T14:20:08.877Z

I love your blog so much! This was such a good read, given me a few things to think about...
Thank you Christiana and your beautician x

I love this and I love your blog. I do think that ...

2011-02-23T20:01:32.069Z

I love this and I love your blog. I do think that we are young females are enundated with this idea of being married. I really do think that the focus should be on yourself and also seeing people for who they truly are "what drives' them as oppose to what they are driving.

Keep the post coming, Loves them..

Just saw your blog post tweeted by someone I follo...

2011-02-23T16:42:35.381Z

Just saw your blog post tweeted by someone I follow on Twitter and clicked through...and I love it! It's so true. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years (long distance across oceans for four of those). We were "young" when we got together (18+19) but I'd never been interested in a boyfriend before that, so I felt I knew myself better than girls who'd gone through high school always attached to a boy.

I sometimes forget that we're both *still* young and growing. We're 23/24 now, but there's so much ahead of us. Sometimes I get stressed because he doesn't see the consequences of his actions, but he does learn, just like the rest of us. He's stressed because he just graduated from his MA and doesn't have the job he wanted yet...it's hard to keep perspective and remember that we're still learning as we go, still messing up here and there, still looking for careers and ways of bringing what we want to be into actuality.

Good on you for keeping an open mind...I'm definitely taking that away from here. Sometimes I know my mind isn't open enough :)

nice blog!!

Brilliant absolutely brilliant!!!!!!! I've be...

2011-02-23T15:33:59.399Z

Brilliant absolutely brilliant!!!!!!!

I've been having the same debate with friends of mine whose views on men can sometimes be........bordering unrealistic. Now my views on men have never been about what he has and have been more focused on who he is in terms of personality, character etc (now that could be to my downfall considering my ex was a class A psycho, but that's a story for another day).

But sometimes I wonder if I'm the weird one out of my circle of friends because the pre requisites they have for men I simply don't care about ie " he has to drive" and " he has to be earning a certain amount of money" and " he has to be the one to take me out and spoil me all the time" so on and so forth

Now don't get me wrong no woman wants a broke ass dude who doesn't have
enough money to buy you an orange, and as you said I think it's great to have standards but not to the point where you let really great guys pass you by because you're not willing to invest the time to grow with him.

What I'm finding is that more and more ladies want a ready made man but none want to take the time out to see where he could be in a few years time.

Me personally I don't think I'd want a ready made man because with it may come an air of arrogance, in the same breath a man who you've grown with may one day decide your not what he wants after all. But I think it's all about taking a leap of faith if you genuinely like or love the person.

Keep up the good work my sweet.

Fumsicles xxxxx

For the most part i feel you. I myself single and ...

2011-02-23T14:44:02.600Z

For the most part i feel you. I myself single and 23 yrs old go through these interventions and they are very depressing.

But I can't say that i agree with this line: “Look at what the man could be rather than what he is”

idk maybe if i open up towards it a little more, you know let it settle. But for now i don't agree with it.

Loved the post!

It seems society and the media has dictated the fa...

2011-02-23T13:18:37.368Z

It seems society and the media has dictated the false dream of a 'perfect man'. There's no such thing as a perfect man or woman.

I agree that women are often programmed to believe that you had to marry a man whose deemed 'better'. Which is not the case. The way men often accept women flaws and all, females should do the same. Some women think they're not good enough and search for a man whose better to complete them. I guess it helps take the focus off some of their insecurities.

We're all a works in progress. As you said there's nothing wrong with having standards. As long as they don't cloud your judgement's and prevent you from giving men a fair opportunity when it comes to dating/courting/romanticism.

Very interesting read. :)

2011-02-23T13:11:59.215Z

Very interesting read. :)