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Friday, 18 March 2011
Women can't change men
Happy Friday!
I video blogged. I know it's astonishing considering my output on the video blogging (and blogging) side hasn't been what it should. For that I'm sorry, I need to learn how to balance things more effectively. If any of you have any tips on how to get more done, but still have some semblance of a social life and sleep for a decent amount of time, please email me!
As usual I won't expound further on the blog. It is what it is and all I ask is that you
a) Watch
b) Comment
c) Share
Sidebar: 'It is what it is' is a phrase that I've recently developed a habit of bandying about too much. I know it reeks of indifference, but it's the only phrase I know that sums up everything, yet attaches itself to nothing. Concrete vagueness is my new thing (I know it's an oxymoron). If any of you have any other concrete vague phrases please send them my way.
Some of you may know it's my birthday on Monday. I will be turning 24 (to think I started blogging at 21...frightening!) As I touch on from time to time, last year's birthday was the worst day of my life (and ironically the best day considering the miraculous outcome) because of the horrific car accident my sisters and I were involved in. The first part of being 23 was spent getting better and the rest of the time coming to grips with the fact my sight would never return to what it was.
I'm grateful to God to still be here. In light of what could have been, I can't not be. You know I'm not a fan of Oprah moments...but I'd like to say thank you to every single person that's helped me through what has been a tumultuous year. Family, friends, all of you that have sent lovely emails, tweets (or just lurked but kept visiting the site : ) ) yeah you're all a bit amazing. Specifically to my three remarkable sisters and my parents. Thank you!
As my life has become an administrative mess, I didn't get around to organising my 'I Didn't Die' party. Much to my distress, the gulf between my income and my taste is so vast, I wouldn't be able to have the party I want. I figure it's better I invest my time in opportunities that close the gap, instead of spending money and widening it.
It seems like my birthday will be spent sending up prayers of thanks, eating lots of cake and buying a pair of shoes that I've had my eye on for while. *clutches womb when she thinks about the price*
Love & Light
Christiana
xxx
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Happy birthday in advance
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you.....we can't change men...i have tried on so many different occasions.... Men seem to have this defined boundary that one can never cross....it's funny how some of us women are so quick to consider changing for men, yet they will never do the same
I just wanna say congratulations, I saw your article in BHM and I'm really proud of you. I have been watching your vids for awhile and they are always articulate, intelligent and thought provoking. I wish you all the best.
ReplyDeleteYou are most insightful. I enjoy reading the majority of your blogs especially the ones on relationships. Your observations are surprisingly accurate.
ReplyDeleteYou posts are always concise and honest which I think we need more of in this world. keep up the good work. Being the man who a woman has tried to change I obviously agree with this post on most points. As you say a woman cannot change a man, no one can change anyone unless they want to be changed in which case as you said that simply makes you the catalyst.
ReplyDeleteAgain, great post, wish I could show this to someone.
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hey awesome vlog....am in London for a few weeks where is a good place to party, to people who read the forum and anyone else
ReplyDeleteChristiana, I am completely enamored by your use of strong diction. What advice would you give on strengthening vocabulary?
ReplyDelete... just like the wise words of Sam Levenston:
ReplyDelete"Women marry men expecting them to change, and they stay the same.
Men marry women expecting them not to change, but they do"
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Wow! We just did a post called "What you ACCEPT is what you get" and I so agree with everything you said in this vlog. A lot of people are lacking this bit of knowledge or are scared to face it. Thank you so much for sharing!
ReplyDeleteKimberly, FWB
I have to disagree. The most grossly morally repugnant man I have ever known in my life became a considerate, kind, and caring gentleman whom I now admire all due to a girl he met. Even after they broke up, he's still the same. If anyone can change men it's women or their children. That's all I can tell you from personal experience.
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ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading your articles. This is truly a great read for me. I have bookmarked it and I am looking forward to reading new articles.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading by every articles. really nice Post.
ReplyDeleteI´ve just know you by visiting this page for the first time. I'm charmed by your beautiness and your way of talking about relationships advice, a theme i really love. I'm going to bookmark and visit your page frequently, thanks for your advice Christiana!
ReplyDeleteWow! I agree. Women can't change men in what they think and how they do some things, but being smart enough they can change their decisions. Here is an example. Very much men want a relationship with a girl, but they don't want to get committed to her and marry her. For a woman is very difficult, if not impossible, to change his mind by asking him to marry her, but I know some method some of my friends have used to "suggest" the idea to them and without him noticing and without asking him to, he starts to think about engaging and marrying to her. I know it is a mind manipulation method, but it works, and they have got married even with the most resilient to marry men. I am married by now with my boyfriend after nine years of going-to-nowhere relationship.
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