Friday, 21 January 2011

Let's Care Less

Happy Friday : )

It's been a while since I last blogged and it's been months since my last video blog. Today I thought I'd kill two birds with one stone.

The vlog is basically about caring less about what people think. I'm at a point in my journey where I've become wholly indifferent to mass opinion simply because:

1) Mass opinion is normally incorrect
2) When you imbibe the opinions others have of you those view will eventually kill you.
3) There are a lot of miserable people out there trying to spread their misery via their 'opinions'

Since 2011 is the year where I'm fully committed to living my love story, I guess this vlog is all part of the process. I've been reluctant to vlog for a plethora of reasons. However this year I'm trying to embrace vulnerability and do things I'm not naturally comfortable with doing. John Mayer says....."Even if your hands are shaking, And your faith is broken, Even as the eyes are closing,Do it with a heart wide open, Say what you need to say" So I'm saying what I need to say!

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Sidebar: The John Mayer reference is self-indulgent. I'm a massive John Mayer fan. Like...obsessively so. This week I've listened to his music even more than usual. Which is an incredible achievement since I play his music so much my mum actually recognises the 'Neon' guitar riff . I think one day I'm going to write a series of posts dedicated to my favourite music artists, Lauryn Hill, John Mayer, Donny Hathaway, The Dixie Chicks, Stevie Wonder...ok let me stop (Please no ad hominem criticisms of John in the comments section...he is amazing. Thank you)

Let me stop rambling. As a few people have asked, the turban I'm wearing in the video is from Miss Selfridge and the earrings are from Ebay. Due to my father's wishes my sisters and I never had our ears pierced as babies. I only got my ears pierced at age 16. It gives me great joy as an adult to wear hideous ghetto earrings and watch him flinch when I enter the room. They say the higher your weave the closer you are to heaven...I say the bigger your earrings the bigger your heart. Did that make sense? In hindsight I'm not completely sure...

Anyway! I hope you all have a good weekend. Oh yes one final thing.... If any of you have a photo booth you can lend me (seriously) please drop me an email. I'm planning a birthday party as I'm turning 24 (I know it's such a consequential age!). Really the party is in celebration of not dying in the car crash on my last birthday. I think considering the awful birthday I had last year, the least I can do is dress up (like a slag) and drink (like Lindsay Lohan) in celebration of life and living.

Have a great weekend and keep writing your love story,




P.S Even though you can't see much of it because of the turban, my hair in this video was done by a very talented lady named Andree Marie. One to watch! If you live in London I'd recommend you see her! You can find out more about her by clicking here!


  1. I just want to wish you good luck in your decision to be more care free and do what fells right for you.

    It do agree that not caring about other is very hard. For me it goes back to my youth. I was always compared to other and it gave me the feeling that being me wasn't enough. Luckily I have meet people who helped me and are still helping realizing that being ME is OK.

    But the irony in all of this is that the people who use to bring me down in my youth have nothing over me today. Most of them have in fact , helped me realize what I didn't want in my life. So in away I thank them.

  2. Think it's a school yard thing, having to conform, and allowing life and society to push you into this different person. Can't say I'm any different, but great post:)

  3. OMG - I LOVE John Mayer!!! I first heard the song "Say What You Need To Say" when I watched The Bucket List on the plane to America 3 years ago and was really struck by the words. Even that one line alone can have different connotations depending on what you emphasise:

    1) SAY what you need to say - saying things is enough. We don't need to scream it or nag it or cram it in any other way into someone's head. Simply say it and know you've played YOUR role in this story; however they choose to react to it is not your problem to worry about because you've done you duty and all you can control is yourself!

    2) Say what YOU need to say – what YOU need to say, not what everyone else feels the need to say but hasn’t had the guts to. Don’t be anyone’s mouthpiece (except maybe your young children) – if other people have something to say about something and they choose not to, then that doesn’t given you the right or responsibility to say it for them. Know your limits!

    3) Say what you NEED to say - NEED. Life has taught me that sometimes it’s better to be a person of few words. In the past, I have been known to cuss people’s lives from beginning to end when a relationship has been going chronically wrong due to what I believed were THEIR issues. However, in recent years, I have learnt that’s unnecessary ... simply sticking to the issue at hand (e.g. what they did THIS time round) is often enough to drive home your point!

    I'm now gonna actually watch the vlog ... LOL

  4. Hey Christina, your blog is dope and I LOVE your accent :) Make sure you stop by Alee's Perspective and say whats up!

  5. Ahh my homegirl Brittany by way of brought me around to your site and I must say that I adore what you are doing and look forward to seeing and hearing more.


    Katie Mack

  6. John mayer is brillant!! I love him for being so emotional and raw in his music. When I need to relax and just think I play him and kid cudi. Yaaay for video blogs and you are so right about giving people who dont really care about you to much stalk in your life. I've been trying to get out of a toxic friendship for years and I know that I can do it. I have to. Your doing a great job keeping up your blog I love seeing the content you come with. I hope you have an amazing birthday and you find that photobooth your looking for.


  7. i SO SO agree with you on every point!! it's a shame to let others get in your way - including your own self at times. Enjoy turning 24 :)

    + btw sweetheart you are gorgeous in this vid!! the shade of blue/green in your top w the gold chunky hoops just sing off your skintone!!


  8. Sorry this comment isn't about the blog post. I know you told us not to criticise John Mayer. I have to admit I like a few of his songs. Say and Vultures in particular. But, you cannot say he's amazing. He's a fool. His comments about black women and women in general are atrocious. His undeniable talent just doesn't excuse it.